Have you ever tried to get back together with your ex, but ended up putting a much bigger wedge between you both simply because you did a couple of things wrong during the time that you were getting back together? Well, fortunately for you, there are ways that you can prevent this from happening by simply knowing and avoiding the things that you should not do when you are trying to get back together with your ex.
Don’t Be Possessive
People sometimes have a hard time letting their ex’s go, especially if they still are not willing to let go as of yet. If you want to avoid being too possessive and clingy to your ex, learn to let go of your ex, and let her do whatever it is that she wants to do. Keep in mind that both of you are not together now, no matter how you may perceive your relationship to be. Allow your ex to talk, and possibly, go out with other people. This can actually help get your ex to miss the time she had with you. Being too pushy and possessive with your ex will only irritate your ex and ruin your chances with her, so make sure that you avoid acting like that. Allow your ex to make the decision to whether or not he wants to get back together, on her own volition without any interference on your part, as well as give your ex enough space to freely weigh out her options. Remember, you are already broken up, so the rules that apply to couples don’t necessarily apply to you anymore.
Don’t Be Pushy
As much as you would want for things to work immediately between you and your ex, unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. It may take some time for both of you to get back together, and that isn’t even a reassurance that you both will. The point is, if you don’t want to hurt your chances of getting back together with your ex, then you should allow things to run its course. Don’t push her to make decisions she is not ready to make for this will only force her to resent you and get annoyed by your actions.
Don’t Be Desperate
When you try to beg your ex to get back together with you, or when you try to throw yourself to your ex just so you can get her to get back together with you, you are only succeeding in making yourself appear very desperate, and desperation is by no means attractive to anybody. When you do this, you are only pushing your ex away, thereby limiting your chances of getting back together with her.
Don’t Make Your Ex Jealous
Although in most movies, making your ex jealous with a new lover or partner is the way to get your ex to get back together with you, in reality this rarely works. Provoking your ex with such an act only creates more problems as this can force your ex to do the same thing to you, resulting in a never-ending exchange. You will only end up hurting each other instead of getting you to want each other.
Don’t Provoke Your Ex
Provoking your ex just so you can get a reaction from them is not a good idea. If anything, your ex will feel hurt and betrayed, especially if you use any information that is privy to only you shared to you during your relationship. When you attack your ex personally by provoking them, it will only anger her and ruin your chances of rekindling your past relationship.
Don’t Use Mind Games To Get Back Together
Using mind games to get your ex to want to get back together with you is never a good idea as this can only lead to more problems. For example, making your ex jealous by dating another person just to get her to want to get back together with you never works, as this will only push your ex to want to get even and date someone else just to spite you, and the next thing you know you both are already trying to get even with one another. Avoid mind games and just tackle the issues that you have directly and properly.
Getting back together can be a smooth and easy process if you just know what to look for, and what not to do. Hopefully, after you have read this article, you should have an idea as to how to go about getting your ex back into your life.