This is for the Man Who Wants To Attract More Women and Get More Dates, But Can’t Get Started
First – Learn the Truth About These Myths!
How Often Do You Find Yourself Saying: “I Wish I Knew How To attract the ladies and get more dates”? If you’re like most guys I know, it’s more often than you want to admit. We go out on “dates”, hoping that if we prove ourselves to them in some way, they’ll be interested in us and attracted to us. And time after time that just never happens. The date ends with a hug or a quick peck on the cheek, as she tells you, “I had a real nice time.” If you’ve been put on the defense in this dance of romance, you can never really stop worrying, and your attitude will communicate things to a woman that will ultimately drive her away. What I want to do is take a few minutes here and destroy some myths about women and men and get you started on the right path. Let’s start right away with the following myths.
MYTH 1) Women want what they say they want.
It’s a shame we have to cover this one, but it bears repeating. All you have to do is see the apparent contradiction between what women SAY and what they DO and you’ll understand that they are not the same. Women have an ideal picture of “romance” programmed into their heads as little girls, primarily from bad fairy tales they read and TV shows hey watch. Then they move up to the bodice-ripping romance novels. Yes, those cheezy ones you see on bookstore shelves but have no interest in reading. Women (and men) don’t understand that they respond to certain behaviors differently. The good news, guys, is that new behaviors can be learned. They are a part of you already; you just have to learn how to use them.
MYTH 2) Women are hard to understand.
This is a gross example of laziness. Women are extremely easy to understand. The reason most guys say cliche phrases like: “Women! Who can understand them,” or “Women! You can’t live with them and you can’t live without them,” or other jokes to that effect is because men don’t think the way women do about certain things. They think emotionally, while you think logically. All it takes is for you to understand their way of thinking is to listen to them. You don’t have to be a pet hamster to understand that a hamster loves chewing things and running on the wheel in his cage. So you give him things to chew on and give him a nice wheel. Ba-da-bing. You just made Mr. Hamster happy.
Unfortunately, when it comes to women, guys, you want them to behave and think like men, and you discover that they don’t, you get mad about it. Instead, learn how women actually think. It will pay off. Ask yourself this. Are you mad about the weather when it rains? Or do you just figure out how an umbrella works so you can stay dry? One you can control, the other you can’t. One belief will leave you constantly frustrated and angry. The other will put you back in control. Remember, it’s not what happens to you that’s important. It’s how you respond to what happens to you.
MYTH 3) You already have all the skills you ever will with women. (Or, you can’t improve your skills beyond where you are right now.)
This one is the belief that follows right after the last myth. Men give up trying to figure out why a woman behaved a certain way, figuring that it’s easier to just complain. Who could blame you for feeling this way? Guys want a very uncomplicated lifestyle. Most of us don’t like hassles and drama, whereas some women seem to feed off this energy. The truth is that your skills with women can only increase from here, unless you’re in a rock band or you’re a gorgeous movie star where women are handed to you on a plate. But make no mistake, you don’t have to be a rock singer or a movie star for women to find you interesting and fun to be with. All it takes is getting the right information to put you on the right track.
MYTH 4) Women who are attractive are more important and their opinion means more than regular women.
Now, before you take that the wrong way, let me clarify. A guy will tend to treat good-looking women as if she is a precious commodity, and that she is more valuable than himself. We live in a society that is completely hung up on appearances. We love beauty. We actually worship it. Look at the covers of magazines. Look at actors on television and in the movies. Look at our pop music stars. We pay billions of dollars on our vanity. Hair coloring, makeup, cosmetics, you-name-it. There is a well-documented psychological fact that we tend to attribute more positive beliefs and attitudes to people who are attractive. We respect them more. We tend to believe that they are more talented and capable because of their appearance. “Average” people don’t get the same kind of favorable treatment. As we all know, you can’t judge a book by its cover.
Remember that hot women are no different than any other woman, other than the fact that she lucked out in the looks department. She is more likely to have been treated special because of her looks. Maybe even spoiled. She was not as likely to have the pressure to develop her personality, since she has no trouble attracting men without it. The competition is more fierce to win her over. You may not even have the chance to try. Being attractive is more important than being beautiful. Look for other qualities, that are actually much more important and long-lasting.
MYTH 5) You need to convince, beg, or trick women into getting them to sleep with you.
This is where so many guys go wrong. Women want to do the nasty just as much as guys do. In fact, they get even more pleasure and enjoy it more than we do. The only difference is that women have better control over their desires than men do. This stems from a time when women had to be very careful who she mated with because she had to know he was a worthwhile long term mate for herself and her children. If he couldn’t provide for her, she’d be in an incredibly difficult position. A wrong decision could possibly be fatal. So she had to choose well. She learned how to read a guy’s status and standing by his actions, never his words. Anyone can say anything. The good news about this evolutionary programming is that it’s not hard to understand, and it’s easy to make it work for you in attracting women. All you have to do is bring out certain behaviors you’ve been hiding for so long.
MYTH 6) You have to be rich, famous, a jerk, or good looking to attract hot women. Or, can you just be a nice guy and get women.
Women aren’t actually attracted to jerks because of their abusive behavior. Or to famous people because of their fame. Or rich guys because of their wealth. They’re attracted to the potential feelings that these guys can give them. Jerks give her a challenge. Fame is attractive because of the power. Wealth is attractive because of the security, comfort, and power. And all of them are really just indicators about the guy that wields them. It’s easy to assume because a guy is wealthy, he can keep her in a way that she would find comfortable. It’s easy to assume that because a guy has fame, he also has wealth. And he wouldn’t be famous unless a large number of people made him popular, right? This is called “social proof.” Again, the good news is that these are external indicators that you can simulate with your own behavior. You don’t have to be rich or famous – or a jerk – to get the women you want.
MYTH 7) Women are better than men.
A lot of guys run around with the idea that what the media tells you about men is true – that we’re only out for sex, that we’re the rapists and domestic violence offenders, we are just a bunch of grunting animals who only love football and porn, and that we’re just plain bad. Watch any of today’s movies or television shows and they portray men as buffoons that can only understand “Three Stooges” episodes, or lounge around on our front lawns in wife-beater t-shirts on “Cops.” Women have more than their fair share of problems and issues, and if you’ve dated a woman for longer than a few weeks or months, you know I’m telling the truth here. Don’t get me wrong; they’re the most wonderful and complicated creatures, but they’re not better than men. They’re just women. And they can be understood.
MYTH 8) The more you tell her about yourself or about how you feel about her, the better your chances to impress her and make her want you.
This one is completely the opposite. The more you tell her, the less she will feel for you. Especially if it’s about your feelings. A lot of guys think that if they just tell her how they feel, she’ll suddenly discover the love within her for him. Again, another Hollywood lie that is perpetuated because guys don’t take the time to really sit down and think this through.
What is the most important thing to a woman? HOW SHE FEELS. If you can make her feel the right mixture of curiosity, excitement, and hope, you can get her interested in you. I’ll show you how to do that.
MYTH 9) Guys must “ask women out” on dates because it’s what women want.
The single most routine and ordinary (boring) thing to do is ask a woman out. You have to have more imagination than this. This is the oldest routine, and all women know how it works. By asking a woman out, you force her to think of you in romantic terms.
MYTH 10) Since I’m a “nice guy,” I should be what women want, and therefore I should be getting laid.
Nope, sorry, negative. This one belief will probably cripple you for life, as well as turning you into a bitter, angry man. There are more myths about women and seduction than you would believe. They’re misconceptions that have been pumped into you by years of bad advice, well-meaning friends, and Hollywood media. You owe it to yourself to find out what women are really thinking, and what you can change to start getting results in your pursuit of a companion and lover.